What are you afraid of, and what are the real dangers?
We overestimate the dangers that are around us. There is an interesting psychological illusion, making us afraid of the unknown, and the same illusion lets us understand how capable we really are when we go into those unknown territories.
It is important to ask yourself, what are the worst things that can happen if you take a step into unknown territories. Outside of the infamous “comfort zone”, so to say.
One of the greatest fears of most people, apart from health and financial conditions, is public humiliation. Public humiliation itself, in the contemporary era, is just an illusionary buzz unless it is a major disaster for your public reputation. No one, not any of your so-called friends, will think about your so-called “failure”, in whatever domain it will take place. None of them will think about it for hours. On the contrary, if you start to become “successful” on your own terms, then you might be called “weirdo”, “crazy”, “odd” behind your back. Only after then, your so-called friends may think about you. Those are good signs, showing that you are on your own unique path.
This fear of public humiliation is the barrier in front of many people, and they prefer to label it as “being perfectionist”. Well, maybe you also label it so. It actually is pure fear. This is not related to being a perfectionist. If you see yourself as a perfectionist, then please hit the road, and only after then be a perfectionist. If you don’t dare to start, you are not a “perfectionist”. There is nothing to be “perfect” about.
In anything that is worth doing, the so-called “society” will always forgive the missteps. As long as you want to create something unique, after the initial “weirdo” reaction, society will appreciate it. It will appreciate your courage. It will appreciate your decision not to follow “the standard”. It will appreciate your vision.
There is no danger of creating something new. Something that you think should be created. Any fear before it is just an illusion. The regret of moving beyond those illusionary fears should be the one that we are most afraid of.
