Say “No”

The biggest weakness around there is the incapacity to say “No”. “No” is a wonderful word. It means “Yes” to any other thing that it is not told for. Each “No” has numerous “Yes”s inside.

Richard Feynman, one of the greatest physicists of the 20th century, says that whatever can happen actually happens in the quantum world. The reality we are exposed to is our perception of one possibility out of many.

So, our perceived reality is saying “no” to an infinite number of other possibilities.

That being said…

Saying “no” means that you had an opportunity to say “yes”.

It means that you were asked a question.

You are the answering side.

You can pick the right “No”s and “Yes”s to build your own path.

You pick your answers carefully to “win” depending on whatever “winning” means to you.

But who never wins and never loses is the one asking questions.

Winning and losing are such humane concepts.

When life brings you a question, life doesn’t win, it doesn’t lose.

There is no winning for “God”, or “Universe”, or “Energy”.

They are. They just are.

The real “winners” are the ones who do not play. They are the ones who create the play.

You create minor and major plays with your questions.

Deeper questions lead to major creations.

I know that you have goals, ambitions, and rational steps to arrive there.

You can even create a play for yourself by asking why you actually have such goals and ambitions. Why do you want to become who you want to become? What made you believe that you should seek such a future?

Instead of answering;

Ask the questions, give the choices.

Instead of being forced to pick, be the one who creates the choices.

There is no winning there. There is no losing. There is no race.

This is pure existence there.

And I am sure that you do not really want to win.

You want to feel that pure existence again.

You want to return to where you came from.

You just look after it in the wrong places.

So, my hope for anyone reading is to:

Create.

Anything valuable.

Anything worthwhile to read.

Anything worthwhile to listen.

Anything worthwhile to see.

Anything worthwhile to write about.

If you create in such spirits,

You do not lose. You do not win.

You find yourself.

And this is what you want.

What all you need.

Love,

Arda